Is Polite Society Polite? and Other Essays

by Julia Ward Howe

"Is Polite Society Polite?" by Julia Ward Howe is a collection of essays written in the late 19th century. The book explores themes of social behavior and manners, particularly questioning the nature of politeness in society. Drawing on her own experiences and observations, Howe critiques the shortcomings of so-called polite society while advocating for a humane, sincere approach to social interactions. The opening of the essay "Is Polite Society Polite?" begins by introducing the complexities of urban life, suggesting that ambitions can lead individuals to pursue success at the cost of sincerity and genuine manners. Howe discusses the importance of sincerity as the foundation of politeness and criticizes behaviors such as flattery and detraction. Through reflections on her own life, she recounts the lessons learned about the obligations of social conduct, including the importance of integrity when relating to others, especially in terms of one's personal connections and responsibilities. The essay sets the stage for a broader discourse on how to uphold polite society's true essence amidst prevalent societal flaws.