How to Get Married, Although a Woman; or, The Art of Pleasing Men

by Irene W. Hartt

"How to Get Married, Although a Woman; or, The Art of Pleasing Men" by Irene W. Hartt is a self-help guide written during the late 19th century. The text explores the societal expectations of women regarding marriage and offers advice on how to attract and please men, addressing various aspects of female conduct and charm. The book aims to empower its female audience by providing insights into the art of attraction, suggesting that understanding and allure can lead women to marital success. The opening portion of the book sets the stage by discussing the natural desire for girls to marry, emphasizing that such aspirations should be celebrated rather than condemned. The author asserts that both men and women are created with this longing for companionship, and she expresses concern over societal norms that stigmatize women expressing their marital intentions. Hartt reflects on the various reasons why some women remain unattached, attributing it to lack of knowledge about how to attract men or misplaced affections. She advocates for addressing these shortcomings by adopting behaviors that make women more engaging and desirable, indicating that the potential for fulfilling relationships lies within the ability to learn and apply these methods effectively.